As a Single Parent, my duties and chores in the home became overwhelming. There was much more to it than I had imagined. Then, a well-meaning sister in our new ward gave me a great cookbook with an appropriate name: “Where’s Mom Now That I Need Her?” It was a good question, but I knew the answer too well! I know she wanted to help me in the kitchen (the cookbook was very useful), but it motivated me to move forward in more than just cooking. I could see logical patterns that would apply to me as a homemaker. Applying some of my military skills to homemaking, I began by identifying the tasks before me. I watched, studied, and made notes around the house and in the home. Then I began to write “Operating Instruction” (think menus) for duties in the home. This effort helped me outline our tasks and a “mission statement.” In addition, this process of creating Family Chores (and Family Rules) gave me the structure I needed to establish family objectives, procedures, chore assignments, and to move forward. These gave me a basic overview of the “what, why, and how” and to build a foundation to work from. At a very basic level, this effort outlined family homemaking activity for me and allowed me (us) to understand, cope, and survive. Note: Please excuse my “bonehead” approach. But, it was very helpful to me as I worked through this enormous challenge.