Kathy and I met in June 1989 at an LDS Church Single Adult Conference in Long Beach, California. I had just returned from a military assignment to the Middle East (Jordan) and had flown to Monterey to attend my daughter Heather's High School Graduation (which I was late for). After spending a few days of quality time with Heather, I continued my travel home to Illinois with a connecting flight in Los Angeles. However, my flight plans were delayed in LA, so I called some old friends there who invited me to attend the LDS Church’s Long Beach Single Adult Conference scheduled for that weekend. It was at that conference's Friday evening dance that I first met Kathy. I saw her when she first arrived and was attracted to her immediately. I was inside the building at the dance and saw Kathy through the double glass doors as she was walking towards the building with a friend. Many other men must have noticed her too, because it was some time before I was able to say hello or ask her for a dance. Eventually, I saw my opportunity and introduced myself. We danced several dances together that night and I really liked her. I noticed that we had
many experiences in common. Most importantly, she was very familiar with military life because her father was a retired U.S. Air Force officer. I think she even liked the fact that I was an active-duty U.S. Air Force officer; and, it didn't seem to bother her that I had seven children at home. I remember she asked how many children I had. When I said “seven,” she said “do they live with you?” And I said, “of course they do. Where else would they live?”
Because of our homes, family and work, our relationship was destined to be a long range relationship. But I had a good feeling and Kathy seemed agreeable. During the next several months, we spoke on the phone a lot and made several exchange visits. To test our relationship, Kathy and I (and all the children) spent Thanksgiving 1989 together. By Christmas, all the traveling and long distance phone calls had us totally exhausted, so I decided to get serious and ask Kathy to marry me. At the time, we were together in St. Louis and we were visiting the Gateway Arch museum. We rode the tram to the top. I waited until we were at the very top of the Arch before I made it official. The Gateway Arch is the highest structure in St. Louis. So, of all the many people in St. Louis that day, we were at that very moment the highest! We were married and sealed just two months later (24 Feb 1990) in the Las Vegas Nevada LDS Temple.
Now, I think it’s important to say that Kathy was an angel for taking me on in the first place. And, I don't think I will ever forget that she gave up her home and her job; and, she moved away from all her family and friends, bringing her two little children to Illinois to be a Mom to nine children ...not to mention, the wife to this desperate old man. Can you imagine the stress? It must have been a very difficult decision, but she says: "I had an answer to my prayers. So, I packed up my two little ones, and all our belonging, and came to live with the widowed Captain and his seven children.” It wasn't easy for her either (I remember hearing her cry to herself in the bathroom). Thankfully, she stuck it out. Kathy and I have grown a lot together and we've had many wonderful experiences. She has a humble and firm testimony of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and she has been a great blessing to our family. She has been good to me and I love her. I'm a happy man.
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